How To Tell The World A Powerful Story Through Adoption.

Author of 5 books, podcaster, parent trainer, husband and father.

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Fourteen years ago we became adoptive parents and our lives changed forever. But our story didn’t start off as perfect and beautiful as some may believe. We had some big questions, with very few answers.

The argument we were having was completely my fault.

It was a cold November night in 1998 as we sat in my car, fighting on our college campus. It wasn’t a bad fight. More like a heated disagreement. Kristin wore a diamond ring on her left ring finger so things were about to get real in just a few months. These types of disagreements were healthy, so we were told.

On this night, however, we fought about how we would build our family. We both wanted to have children but I wanted to have them biologically and she wanted to adopt. I said no, emphatically, she said yes…emphatically. It’s safe to say that we had a pretty emphatic stand-off that night!

Misunderstanding Adoption.

It wasn’t that I was against adoption, I just didn’t understand it. Sure, I had watched movies or television shows in my years growing up, where the topic of adoption was mentioned, but nothing significant, nothing that would resonate with me. To be honest, I viewed adoption as only something people who couldn’t have children biologically did as a Plan B. I was clueless!

The other thing was that no one in my family was adopted, or had adopted before. My mom, dad, uncles, aunts, grandparents- nobody. Everyone came to be the old-fashioned way. It was all I knew. So it was a guarantee that I would be opposed to the whole thing. I may, or may not have been a wee-bit stubborn, narrow-minded, set in my ways, and non-negotiable in every way possible. Okay, a lot. Kristin would testify to this!

My Transformation.

Thankfully, it didn’t last. My perspective changed but more importantly, so did my heart. Holding my brand new daughter in the nursery of the hospital in 2002, my heart melted and my life changed forever. Both of ours did.

We would never look back. Thirteen years and 8 children, all of whom are adopted, later our hearts are full. We believe adoption changes the world as well as the lives of millions of children. Our life is dedicated to helping adoptive parents find the hope they need, and the answers to some of their biggest questions.

Helping Others Find Hope.

As we stand on the other side of a 13-year adoption journey, we’re amazed at the powerful story our family is telling the world through our choice to adopt. Honestly, that November night in 1998, when we fought about building our family, both of our visions were small compared to the bigger story that God would write through us.

Isn’t that the way it always goes? We’ve learned that when we try to do things on our own, or write out own story, it just doesn’t turn out as big or powerful as it does when we let go and follow a bigger plan.

Along the way, we’ve met many folks who are apprehensive, or have big questions about adoption just like we did in the beginning. There have been many moments, over the years, when we’ve reminisced back to before we started the process and realized that we had more questions than answers. Our hearts ache when we think about the hundreds of thousands of people in this world, with a big heart to adopt, who may feel the same.

That’s why we wrote the book, The Adoptive Parent Toolbox. We had learned so many lessons and gone through so many trials on this journey that we knew there had to be others in the same trench looking for answers. Maybe they were unaware of the powerful story their life was telling because they were just so exhausted? Maybe they were too afraid to step out in faith and begin? So, we spent months, last year, writing down every insight, experience, or story we could think of from our own journey into one book. Our goal was simple: We wanted to help as many people on the adoption journey as possible. Those who had just begun, those who had already adopted, those were just thinking about it, even foster parents!

“If our story could help,” we thought, “we need to share it openly and honestly!” Thus, The Adoptive Parent Toolbox was born. The world didn’t need another “How-to.” The world needed an “I know, I’ve been there. You’re not alone!” People who had the same burning questions I had, once upon a time, needed a resource that would transform their entire journey!

The story our family is telling the world through adoption, is bigger than anything I could have imagined with my tiny human brain all those years ago. I believe it is the greatest journey in the world. I also believe it is life changing. There are 8 children in the Berry household who would agree.

Are you an adoptive parent? Are you thinking about adoption? What kind of story do you want to tell the world?

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

Sarah Gray

Sarah Gray is the executive assistant to Mike and Kristin Berry. And she is the best in the land. In addition to providing a warm and friendly response to the many emails our company receives on a weekly basis, she also manages Mike and Kristin’s speaking and meeting schedules, and makes sure that team events go off without a hitch.

Nicole Goerges

Nicole Goerges is a Content Contributor & Special Consultant for The Honestly Adoption Company. She works with Mike and Kristin as a recurring co-host for the Honestly Adoption Podcast, and co-host of Kitchen Table Talks, exclusive video content for Oasis Community, along with Kristin. She is a fellow adoptive mom, and former foster parent.

Matt McCarrick

Matt McCarrick is the Content Production Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. If you’ve loved listening to our podcast, or enjoyed any of the videos trainings we’ve published, you have Matt to thank. He oversees all of our content production, from video edits, to making sure the tags are correct on YouTube, to uploading new videos to Oasis, to hitting publish on a podcast episode, he’s a content wonder!

Karen Anderson

Karen Anderson is the Community Engagement Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends the bulk of her time interacting with, and helping, people through our various social media channels, as well as providing support for Oasis Community members through chat support or Zoom calls. In the same spirit as Beaver, Karen is also passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and supported. Karen is also an FASD trainer and travels often, equipping and encouraging parents.

Beaver Trumble

Beaver Trumble is the Customer Care Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. Chances are, if you have been in need of technical support, or forgotten your password to one of our courses, you have interacted with Beaver. He is an absolute pro at customer care. In fact, he single-handedly revolutionized our customer care department last year. Beaver is passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and encouraged.

Kristin Berry

Kristin Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Content Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends most of her time researching and connecting with guests for our podcast, as well as direction, designing and publishing a lot of the content for our social media channels, blog and podcast. She loves to connect with fellow parents around the world, and share the message of hope with them.

Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.