Born Broken, But Not Hopeless!

Author of 5 books, podcaster, parent trainer, husband and father.

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It's been a difficult 13 years with our oldest son. Some would have told us to give up a long time ago. On paper he seems like a hopeless cause. But we've found hope. And we refuse to believe his story is over.

It’s not what we pictured when we became parents 15 years ago. We wouldn’t have looked at you and told you we hoped to raise a child with permanent brain damage. In fact, it was quite the opposite. Once we discovered the reality of his disorder we struggled. We’ve been to the darkest places of anger, frustration, and the finally, into the glorious light of forgiveness and redemption. We’ve battled tooth and nail against our son, with our son, and for our son. We’ve almost given up a few times….almost.

Our son was born broken. He was born with a critical area in his mind missing. Because his birth mother chose drugs and alcohol over a healthy pregnancy, it rendered him unable to reason, think logically, or choose rationally. This choice has held our family hostage more times than we can begin to count. It’s causes us to hide in our own house for fear of judgement from neighbors. It’s caused us to live within structure so intense, that our other children went for years without a normal childhood.

Sounds hopeless….sounds bleak….sounds like a lost cause. But it’s not. There’s hope, even in the middle of the wreckage of this life. Yes, our son was born broken….but so were all of us. We all stepped into a world that was broken, lost, and dark. We all took our first breath in a world that was fallen. My son is not a hopeless case because I’m not a hopeless case.

For years we struggled to tell our story with honesty. We feared judgment, and ridicule. Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders are widely judged and misunderstood. A lot of stigmas surround this disorder and, frankly, we feared all of it. But then we realized how not alone we really were on this journey, and that gave us the courage to speak up, and speak out. We decided to fight with our son, instead of against him. We decided to advocate for FASDs, to help give it a voice worldwide.

image001Today, Kristin’s new book, Born Broken: An Adoptive Journey is available. We are so excited to release this to the world. Written as a memoir, the book chronicles our journey in raising a child with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. It’s a real-life look into the battle you often find yourself in when parenting through this disorder. It takes you to the darkest places of trauma, but leads you into the light of hope and redemption. We believe in the power of this book because we know the power of hope.

Thousands of people have already read the book and here’s what some of them have said…

Kristin’s tenderhearted memoir of raising her adoptive son Alexander drew me in, and I found myself bartering, “Only 3 more pages, then I have to get the dishes done.” And then of course, I read the whole next chapter, wholly ignoring the chores that needed my attention.” ~Rachel, adoptive mother

Born Broken is an authentic, painful account of one family’s journey through fostering and adopting a son with fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. Kristin’s words captivate the reader, drawing them into a less than picture perfect story that clearly mirrors the love Christ has for his children. It is a must-read for any foster/adoptive parent as well as those who desire to love them well and walk alongside them on the arduous journey.” ~Murray, adoptive father

As a mother of 2 bio kids, 2 adopted kids and 3 permanent fosters, with various issues and difficulties including suspected FASD with 2-3 of them – I could relate to many of the scenarios in this book. It was awesome to feel like someone else understood the struggles I face. Superbly written, heart-wrenching and yet encouraging – so real!! I love this book. It was hard to focus on anything else that I needed to do as I just wanted to keep reading. Thanks for the opportunity to hear your story.” ~Tracey, adoptive mother

Because we believe in the message of Born Broken so much, we are currently giving away the highest level of our self-care parenting course, The Resting Place, for free when you purchase the book. That’s over $200 in free content. You must hurry though…this special bonus offer will not be around forever.

Our hope and prayer is that you find encouragement and hope through our story. And may you realize from reading Born Broken that you are not alone, and your child’s story is far from over!

Have you read the book already? What were your thoughts? Are you parenting a child from trauma (either FASD, or struggles with attachment)? Share your story with us.

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

Sarah Gray

Sarah Gray is the executive assistant to Mike and Kristin Berry. And she is the best in the land. In addition to providing a warm and friendly response to the many emails our company receives on a weekly basis, she also manages Mike and Kristin’s speaking and meeting schedules, and makes sure that team events go off without a hitch.

Nicole Goerges

Nicole Goerges is a Content Contributor & Special Consultant for The Honestly Adoption Company. She works with Mike and Kristin as a recurring co-host for the Honestly Adoption Podcast, and co-host of Kitchen Table Talks, exclusive video content for Oasis Community, along with Kristin. She is a fellow adoptive mom, and former foster parent.

Matt McCarrick

Matt McCarrick is the Content Production Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. If you’ve loved listening to our podcast, or enjoyed any of the videos trainings we’ve published, you have Matt to thank. He oversees all of our content production, from video edits, to making sure the tags are correct on YouTube, to uploading new videos to Oasis, to hitting publish on a podcast episode, he’s a content wonder!

Karen Anderson

Karen Anderson is the Community Engagement Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends the bulk of her time interacting with, and helping, people through our various social media channels, as well as providing support for Oasis Community members through chat support or Zoom calls. In the same spirit as Beaver, Karen is also passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and supported. Karen is also an FASD trainer and travels often, equipping and encouraging parents.

Beaver Trumble

Beaver Trumble is the Customer Care Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. Chances are, if you have been in need of technical support, or forgotten your password to one of our courses, you have interacted with Beaver. He is an absolute pro at customer care. In fact, he single-handedly revolutionized our customer care department last year. Beaver is passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and encouraged.

Kristin Berry

Kristin Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Content Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends most of her time researching and connecting with guests for our podcast, as well as direction, designing and publishing a lot of the content for our social media channels, blog and podcast. She loves to connect with fellow parents around the world, and share the message of hope with them.

Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.