I stand on the back porch of my farmhouse in Central Indiana on a January afternoon. Rain patters on the tin room covering above my head. I watch intently as drops trace along the edge of the gutter before plummeting to the sidewalk below.
It’s a gloomy day in the Hoosier state. Typical for this time of year. The rain accentuates the gray skies and barren trees that surround our farm leaving me to feel as though I am looking out into a wasteland that is always going to be just that…a wasteland. That’s where my heart and mind are on this day.
I feel defeated and hopeless. Maybe it’s seasonal depression or perhaps just another hard day walking through trauma behaviors, basement brain blow ups and meltdowns, defiance and disrespect, or a myriad of other big feeling moments we often have in our household.
I wonder how we can even face another day of this. Do we really have the resiliency, the strength, the ability to move forward?
In my questioning and wonderment I pull a tiny oval case from my pocket, flip it open, and insert two tiny earbuds into my ears. I feel that some good ole introspective tunes could compliment the scenery perfectly and maybe, just maybe pull me out of this pit. Plus, the author side of me begs for something to deepen the thoughts I’m having.
I’m not paying attention to the song cued up when I press play. These words begin to play…
It’s a song from the new Taylor Swift album, Midnights. And yes, I am a Taylor Swift fan (aka- a Swifty). I’ve heard this song several times but this time I pay close attention to the bridge of the song.
‘Cause there were pages turned with the bridges burnedEverything you lose is a step you take So make the friendship bracelets Take the moment and taste it You’ve got no reason to be afraidYou’re on your own, kidYeah, you can face this.(Taylor Swift, You’re On Your Own Kid, 2022)
And so I do. And so do you, dear caregiver. You’ve got no reason to be afraid. You can face this. We can together.
Resiliency is about making the choice to move forward, in spite of hard circumstances.