Make It Right.

Author of 5 books, podcaster, parent trainer, husband and father.

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I was far from bringing home the "Father Of The Year" trophy.

My son was mis-behaving and I had completely lost my temper. I mean, really lost my temper! For anyone who is thinking, “Well, you’re a pastor, so you must have just raised your voice a little, right?” Wrong! It was embarrassing and non-pastoral, to say the least. I wasn’t proud of my behavior.

As I slammed his door shut, echoing threats along the way, a rush of guilt swept over me. I felt like the worst father in the world. I was ashamed. I felt like a failure. To make matters worse, I sat down in our living room to watch TV, and first thing that came across the screen was a report from Newtown, Connecticut. I saw the faces of broken parents who would never see their child again. My guilt worsened.

As parents, we’ve all been there: lost our temper, raised our voice, said something we did not mean, behaved selfishly, set a terrible example for our children, and made plenty of bad parenting decisions. We’ve walked away from these moments dragging the weight of our actions around like a pile of bricks chained to our ankles. If you’re anything like me, you struggle to let it go. It stays with you. Or worse, you file it away in the “failure file” and every time there’s a ‘recurrence’ you return to that file as if to say to yourself, “See, I am a failure!” It’s not healthy and it doesn’t feel very good! Many of you can identify.

The longer I sat in my living room, mulling my loss of temper with him over, the more hopeless I felt. I could hear him crying upstairs but I couldn’t move. I felt utterly powerless to do anything. My initial reaction was to let it go, and apologize in the morning. “After all,” I reasoned, “He made the bad choice to begin with. I just put my foot down!” But then suddenly the thought came to me like a still small voice whispering to my heart- “Make it right.”

You don’t know how much time you’ve been given with him.

You don’t know which words to him will be your last.

You don’t don’t know which moments his little mind will file away and carry into adulthood.

And, by all means, you have no idea how powerful forgiveness, and saying “I’m sorry” really is!

Make it right!

I don’t want to seem dramatic, but sitting in my living room, watching the reality of our world on my TV, struck a major chord with me. So, I pulled myself out of my chair, and headed upstairs. My son was standing in the the doorway of his room waiting for me. I knelt down on the top step, called him over to me, and embraced him, choking back tears the entire time.

I’m sorry I said those things buddy. I’m sorry I raised my voice. I’m sorry I lost my temper. I’m trying real hard to not be that way.” Those words were the hardest words in the world to say, but I needed to say them. As I tucked him into bed and kissed his forehead I felt a weight lifted from my shoulders. Making it right had freed me from my own guilt and shame and, most importantly, repaired my brokenness with my son. The next morning was a brand new start. What a great feeling!

Question: Do you need to ‘make it right’ with your child, your spouse, your friend or co-worker? What is stopping you? Comment now!

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

Sarah Gray

Sarah Gray is the executive assistant to Mike and Kristin Berry. And she is the best in the land. In addition to providing a warm and friendly response to the many emails our company receives on a weekly basis, she also manages Mike and Kristin’s speaking and meeting schedules, and makes sure that team events go off without a hitch.

Nicole Goerges

Nicole Goerges is a Content Contributor & Special Consultant for The Honestly Adoption Company. She works with Mike and Kristin as a recurring co-host for the Honestly Adoption Podcast, and co-host of Kitchen Table Talks, exclusive video content for Oasis Community, along with Kristin. She is a fellow adoptive mom, and former foster parent.

Matt McCarrick

Matt McCarrick is the Content Production Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. If you’ve loved listening to our podcast, or enjoyed any of the videos trainings we’ve published, you have Matt to thank. He oversees all of our content production, from video edits, to making sure the tags are correct on YouTube, to uploading new videos to Oasis, to hitting publish on a podcast episode, he’s a content wonder!

Karen Anderson

Karen Anderson is the Community Engagement Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends the bulk of her time interacting with, and helping, people through our various social media channels, as well as providing support for Oasis Community members through chat support or Zoom calls. In the same spirit as Beaver, Karen is also passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and supported. Karen is also an FASD trainer and travels often, equipping and encouraging parents.

Beaver Trumble

Beaver Trumble is the Customer Care Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. Chances are, if you have been in need of technical support, or forgotten your password to one of our courses, you have interacted with Beaver. He is an absolute pro at customer care. In fact, he single-handedly revolutionized our customer care department last year. Beaver is passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and encouraged.

Kristin Berry

Kristin Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Content Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends most of her time researching and connecting with guests for our podcast, as well as direction, designing and publishing a lot of the content for our social media channels, blog and podcast. She loves to connect with fellow parents around the world, and share the message of hope with them.

Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.