She’s Growing Up, Don’t Miss This!

Author of 5 books, podcaster, parent trainer, husband and father.

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I had a ton of things to do.

By a ton, I mean, a MOUNTAIN of chores to get accomplished and it was already 9pm. We had been running like crazy that entire day with work, babysitting, soccer practice, football practice, cleaning our house, grocery shopping, homework, ballet class, yard work, shampooing the dog, shampooing the kid….etc. etc. etc.

I was fighting with my 9-year old son over getting into bed and ending the on-going charade of him coming out and asking me questions like “Dad, when is wake up time tomorrow?” or “Dad, I just need to use the bathroom for the 400th time!”  when I heard the faint voice of my 11-year old daughter,

“Dad, could you come and tuck me in?”

She was waiting patiently in her room for me to come in, pull the covers up tightly to her chin, pray with her and then turn off the light. Moments later I walked into her room with a sigh and plopped down on the bed next to her. She glanced up and smiled. I smiled back. Then, I gave her a kiss and prepared to routinely pray when she began to speak…about her day…about soccer practice…about the coach trying her at goalie instead of midfielder…about how being a goalie really wasn’t her thing…about how school was going…about who she sits with at lunch…about everything in her 11-year old world that was important to her.

Honestly (because the word ‘Confession’ is in the title of this blog)- the urge arose in me to shut it down, kiss her goodnight, pray over her, and get out of that room so I could get back to the business of doing chores!

But then, as if a voice spoke directly to my heart in her dimly lit room, I heard these words- “She’s growing up, don’t miss this!”

I’ve failed at this a thousand times in the past! But on this night, I submitted to what I heard. I stayed. I sat. I listened. I smiled. I conversed with her. And when I walked out of her room sometime later and turned off the light, I felt as though I had taken advantage of a precious and fleeting moment. My heart was overflowing.

Truth is, she’ll be all grown up in a just a few years. I don’t have as much time as I think. I might sound paranoid but I’ve determined that if staying on edge about her growing up and being gone from home forever and me regretting not taking advantage of every single moment with her that I’m given, then I’ll take paranoia.

I don’t want to miss this!

Question: How is your connection to your children right now? (If you’re anything like me, you need work). What struggles have you had with this lately? 

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

Sarah Gray

Sarah Gray is the executive assistant to Mike and Kristin Berry. And she is the best in the land. In addition to providing a warm and friendly response to the many emails our company receives on a weekly basis, she also manages Mike and Kristin’s speaking and meeting schedules, and makes sure that team events go off without a hitch.

Nicole Goerges

Nicole Goerges is a Content Contributor & Special Consultant for The Honestly Adoption Company. She works with Mike and Kristin as a recurring co-host for the Honestly Adoption Podcast, and co-host of Kitchen Table Talks, exclusive video content for Oasis Community, along with Kristin. She is a fellow adoptive mom, and former foster parent.

Matt McCarrick

Matt McCarrick is the Content Production Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. If you’ve loved listening to our podcast, or enjoyed any of the videos trainings we’ve published, you have Matt to thank. He oversees all of our content production, from video edits, to making sure the tags are correct on YouTube, to uploading new videos to Oasis, to hitting publish on a podcast episode, he’s a content wonder!

Karen Anderson

Karen Anderson is the Community Engagement Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends the bulk of her time interacting with, and helping, people through our various social media channels, as well as providing support for Oasis Community members through chat support or Zoom calls. In the same spirit as Beaver, Karen is also passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and supported. Karen is also an FASD trainer and travels often, equipping and encouraging parents.

Beaver Trumble

Beaver Trumble is the Customer Care Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. Chances are, if you have been in need of technical support, or forgotten your password to one of our courses, you have interacted with Beaver. He is an absolute pro at customer care. In fact, he single-handedly revolutionized our customer care department last year. Beaver is passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and encouraged.

Kristin Berry

Kristin Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Content Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends most of her time researching and connecting with guests for our podcast, as well as direction, designing and publishing a lot of the content for our social media channels, blog and podcast. She loves to connect with fellow parents around the world, and share the message of hope with them.

Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.