Your child will always have first family. And as much as possible, we believe you should work to formulate a solid relationship with them. After all, they gave your child life. But what if there’s a possibility this will hurt your child in the long run? It’s a valid question: “Will visiting with birth parents, or having a relationship with them, hurt my child in the long run?” We understand where this comes from. But we also know that oftentimes, birth parents get a bad rep thanks to current news media, and unwarranted or unfounded fear. There are situations that
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*Editors note- this post originally appeared on Mike’s column on Babble.com, as recognition of May being National Foster Care Month.
We believe in foster and adoptive parents. While you may never be applauded, nor recognized, what you are doing has a profound impact on the world. It took a long time for us to believe in our story. More than a decade, in fact. We couldn’t figure out how anything good could come out of all the wounds we had sustained as parents, not to mention the trauma our children had gone through. It seemed our circumstances were never going to change. We often asked ourselves…”Is there any way to find hope in the middle of this?”
I’m trying to remember the last time I knew I fit in. I think it was pre-school. My teacher, Mrs. Green, called everyone to the story carpet. “Ok friends, time for a story,” she would sing. Friends. She always used that word, and I guess she was right. I liked everyone in that class and they liked me. I fit in there.