It’s a common tale in foster parenting- A couple gets excited, joins the ranks of foster parenting, begins taking placements, and just a month in they’re completely overwhelmed or defeated! How can a person enter this journey better prepared? This is the topic of today’s podcast! We figured out just months into our time as foster parents, that we were in over our head. But it really didn’t need to be this way. If only there were some folks willing to give us the inside scoop on what we could expect from this journey. Instead, we took the foster parent
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It has been said that hindsight is always 20/20. As I look back, 12 years into the past, to our first year as foster parents, there are some things I would change if I had the chance.
We’ve often asked the question of foster parents, “If you could tell your case manager anything, unfiltered, what would you say?” In this episode of Honestly Speaking, Kristin and I discuss this with our good friend, Nicole. Over our 9-year career in foster parenting we worked with so many wonderful people, case managers, guardian ad litems, CASA workers, attorneys and more. But we also faced our fair share of difficult people, namely misunderstanding case managers. It made the the road we were on difficult, isolating, and much longer than it needed to be.
Every month we dialogue with foster parents over email, face-to-face, or at speaking engagements, and the the common theme we hear is, “I had no idea what I was getting into.” We understand. Once upon a time, we felt that way. But we learned some valuable lessons that are important to understand before starting foster care.
It’s something you might expect will happen when you begin the foster care journey, but still find yourself unprepared for: Emotion. Strong emotion, in fact. How do you combat the ups and downs, twists and turns, and unending roller coaster ride of foster parenting?
In previous posts on foster care we’ve talked about the trauma children who enter our care can experience due to the difficult situations they’ve come from. This is a real battle. For everyone involved. Nearly every foster parent has dealt with this, or will deal with this. But there’s another form of trauma that often occurs, and often goes unnoticed. It’s the trauma your biological children, or children who are permanently a part of your family, may go through as the result of a placement.