“You Make Me Want To Be A Better Man!”

Author of 5 books, podcaster, parent trainer, husband and father.

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As I was scurrying through the airport in San Diego, California yesterday, on my way to the conference I was speaking at this week, something caught my eye on Facebook and made my heart melt. In a moment I was humbled and grateful for the family God has blessed me with!

In the late 90’s a movie came out called As Good As It Gets, starring Jack Nicolson and Helen Hunt. You may remember this film. It was in a lineup of blockbuster hits in 1997. The movie garnered an array of Golden Globe and Academy Award nominations that year. It was one of my favorite films then and still is to this day.

In the movie, Nicolson plays Melvin Udall, an anti-social, condescending author who lives and works in New York City. Hunt plays Carol Connelly, a kind-hearted, down-to-earth but down on her luck waitress at Udall’s favorite restaurant. The two form an unlikely friendship that grows into more than friends throughout the film. At one point, Melvin is struggling with paying Carol a compliment when he suddenly blurts out, “You make me want to be a better man!” At that, Carol’s heart melts.

I was busy yesterday. Quite busy, actually, and on Father’s Day, no less. While my wife was busy working, leading our children, and our home altogether, I was on a plane headed to my next speaking engagement. It’s all part of the dream we’ve chosen to pursue! But often, I feel I could do better. Not necessarily with traveling because we’ve found a pretty good balance. I’m talking about life in general with my family. In the back of my mind, I replay the countless times I’ve failed as a husband and father. The unkind words I’ve spilled in a heated moment or the preoccupation with something of much less importance than my wife and children. It’s a script that scrolls through my thoughts often.

Then, in one of my few down moments yesterday, I clicked a notification on Facebook to find this:

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“I don’t deserve this,” I thought to myself, as I smiled and wiped a small tear. “Wow! I don’t deserve their grace, their love, or  their kindness.” They’re too good to me.

In a moment, as I looked at the collage my amazing wife posted, along with the comment she left, all of my failures and shortcomings, inadequacies, idiosyncrasies that can drive my family crazy, and sometimes selfish attitude hit me like a tidal wave! I was far from deserving of this but boy oh boy was I humbled. “They make me want to be a better man,” I thought, recounting that famous scene from As Good As It Gets. I clutched my phone to my chest, pulled myself together, gripped my suitcase tightly and made my way through the terminal.

That’s what is so amazing about the grace my family is so quick to give to me. It’s underserving. It’s so undeserving. But they give it to me freely, and for that, I’m grateful. Deep in my heart, it makes me want to be better for them. It motivates me to fight harder for their heart, and do everything in my power to be the husband and father they need me to be.

Kristin, Rachel, Krystal, Noelle, Jaala, Andre, Elisha, Jacob and Sam- you make me want to be a better man! I love you.

How are you growing as a husband and father?

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

Sarah Gray

Sarah Gray is the executive assistant to Mike and Kristin Berry. And she is the best in the land. In addition to providing a warm and friendly response to the many emails our company receives on a weekly basis, she also manages Mike and Kristin’s speaking and meeting schedules, and makes sure that team events go off without a hitch.

Nicole Goerges

Nicole Goerges is a Content Contributor & Special Consultant for The Honestly Adoption Company. She works with Mike and Kristin as a recurring co-host for the Honestly Adoption Podcast, and co-host of Kitchen Table Talks, exclusive video content for Oasis Community, along with Kristin. She is a fellow adoptive mom, and former foster parent.

Matt McCarrick

Matt McCarrick is the Content Production Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. If you’ve loved listening to our podcast, or enjoyed any of the videos trainings we’ve published, you have Matt to thank. He oversees all of our content production, from video edits, to making sure the tags are correct on YouTube, to uploading new videos to Oasis, to hitting publish on a podcast episode, he’s a content wonder!

Karen Anderson

Karen Anderson is the Community Engagement Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends the bulk of her time interacting with, and helping, people through our various social media channels, as well as providing support for Oasis Community members through chat support or Zoom calls. In the same spirit as Beaver, Karen is also passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and supported. Karen is also an FASD trainer and travels often, equipping and encouraging parents.

Beaver Trumble

Beaver Trumble is the Customer Care Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. Chances are, if you have been in need of technical support, or forgotten your password to one of our courses, you have interacted with Beaver. He is an absolute pro at customer care. In fact, he single-handedly revolutionized our customer care department last year. Beaver is passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and encouraged.

Kristin Berry

Kristin Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Content Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends most of her time researching and connecting with guests for our podcast, as well as direction, designing and publishing a lot of the content for our social media channels, blog and podcast. She loves to connect with fellow parents around the world, and share the message of hope with them.

Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.