When we adopted our first daughter, Jaala, her birth mother chose a closed adoption. We also know many adoptive families who have chosen this route. In today’s interview, Jaala shares her perspective on closed adoptions. We understand why birth families and adoptive families choose a closed adoption. For Jaala, her birth mother wanted her to have the best life possible. We are eternally grateful to her for making this amazing decision. But over the past decade of our adoption journey, we have formed great relationships with several of our other children’s birth families and the benefits are many.
Archive for March 2016
You know how this goes, especially if you’re fostering or have adopted a child with special needs: The dreaded IEP meeting! The last thing you need is another defeat. But does it really have to go this way?
Artificial Twinning can be a hot button subject within the adoptive community. Artificial twins or virtual twins are two non-biological siblings who are born within the same year. Most adoption experts caution against this practice, sighting the potential for damage to the individual child’s identity. We had never giving the subject much thought until we adopted our first daughter.
Over the course of 9 years as foster parents, we had many moments where we felt hopeless. When we fostered teenagers the hopeless feeling intensified because we felt like our words or actions weren’t making a difference. They were, however, and so are yours. As an 18-year old kid, Tricia Collins did everything in her power to push her new foster parents, Rich and Ruth, away. She smoked, drank, and even engaged in sexual activity, knowing they wouldn’t approve. What she didn’t realize, however, was the depth of their grace and compassion for her. Instead of judging her, criticizing her,
It’s not easy to parent a child with FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder). Ask any one of us who are in this trench…keeping our cool when we’re pushed to the edge daily, is an uphill climb. How can we successfully parent our children when every day is a fierce battle?
Due to technical difficulties we will not be posting a new podcast today. Click here to listen to recent episodes. We apologize for this inconvenience. We are pleased to share a recent post that Mike did for Disney’s Babble.com on some of the myths of foster parenting. You can follow his work with Babble by clicking here.
A failed adoption hurts as much as a miscarriage. It’s painful, embarrassing, frustrating and defeating! When an adoption falls through and all of the plans you made diminish like dust in the wind, where do you go? What do you do? How will you ever find hope in the midst of great loss?
It’s a decision we had to make 3 times in 4 years with one of our children. It never got easier. There were only more questions and more what-ifs. Along the way I asked the question…. “Am I a failure as a parent for making this choice?”
Every week we receive questions through email and our Facebook Page, inquiring about fostering-to-adopt and whether it’s the right avenue for families to adopt. On today’s episode we talk specifically about the ins and outs of this form of adoption. In 2004 we began our foster care journey but we had no idea how that would shape the landscape of our family. Six out of our 8 children were adopted from the foster care system. As we stand on the other side of 12 years, we marvel at the amazing story our family’s life is telling the world. We couldn’t