Archive for Mike Berry
When we used to do in-person events (hello COVID!) the topic of biological family relationships often came up. And in many of those conversations with conference attendees, we’ve been asked, “What should I do if I feel afraid of a biological family member?”
There’s no doubt about it: the foster care journey is often difficult. From an inefficient system, to prolonged cases, to overworked case managers, it often leaves care givers bewildered, exhausted, and ready to give up. How can parents on this journey build resiliency, and the will to keep going?
Parenting a child, or young adult, with a FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder) can be daunting, and just plain hard. If you’re like many parents, you’ve tried everything, and you’re losing your hair for pulling it out. You wonder if your circumstances will ever change? You wonder if you’ll ever be able to help your child? If this is you…we have good news!
As a parent, you discover pretty quickly that the ways in which your parents parented you, won’t work with children who have a trauma history. Our entire approach must change. But how?
Oftentimes, outsiders looking in on the adoption journey can begin to hail you as a ‘hero’ or an ‘angel’ for choosing to adopt. It’s awkward. But sometimes, it’s unending. How then, should you respond?
At some point or another, children with a trauma history will begin to recount, remember, or talk about the hards parts of their story. How do we help them process through this? Here are some steps…
We have said this repeatedly over the past 5 years. When you gain an understanding of how trauma has changed your child, your entire parenting journey will change. Here’s why..