Season 21, Episode 174

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It can be wildly frustrating for parents. You give a simple instruction: a chore, a task, or a favor. You ask it to be completed. You believe it's simple and there should be no problem getting it done. But then you realize your child just didn't do what you asked. Why?

Believe it or not, your child may not be doing this on purpose. We know…hard to believe! But there’s a simple explanation. Children with a trauma history often lack the ability to do simple things like carry out a task they’ve been asked to do. Same with favors, or chores you’ve assigned to them. You may find yourself repeating yourself a zillion times before they comply.

What is really going on?

That simple explanation has to do with executive function disruption. One of the primary things that trauma impacts is a person’s pre-frontal cortex in the frontal lobe of the brain. Within the prefrontal cortex is a person’s executive functioning ability. Executive functioning helps us do everything from getting up on time for work, to organizing important tasks, managing complex assignments, fulfilling responsibilities, moving through the day in productivity, and (you guessed it) completing tasks.

You’re probably starting to piece some realities with your children together right now, aren’t you?

In this latest episode of our podcast series, “Help! I Need Answers” we talk answer the question, “Why Won’t My Child Complete A Task?

If you missed the first episode from last week, click here.

Also on the show…

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Why Won’t My Child Complete A Task?

Season 21, Episode 174
It can be wildly frustrating for parents. You give a simple instruction: a chore, a task, or a favor. You ask it to be completed. You believe it's simple and there should be no problem getting it done. But then you realize your child just didn't do what you asked. Why?

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

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Kristin Berry

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Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.