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Before You React, Remember Their Loss

Transitions and change can bring up a lot of mixed emotions with our children. Often, it’s easy to mistake their behaviors for just “bad behavior.” But there’s so much more happening…

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Is Frozen II A Win For Your Family?

Brand new sing-a-long ballads, funny one-liners, a heart-warming love story, and another heart palpitating adventure make up the highlights of my review of Disney Frozen II.

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My Son Has A FASD, But That’s Not His Definition

This post is written by a dad, in hopes of sharing encouragement (and also to brag about his son.)This month is FASD Awareness Month. FASD stands for Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. It is the umbrella title over several diagnoses surrounding drug and alcohol exposure in utero. My son has a FASD. But he’s not defined by it.

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Missing Her First Steps, But Being Here Now

This post was written by our friend and special guest, Michelle, a lovely adoptive momma, who chooses to make the most of every moment.
We often enter into our children’s lives later in the game which makes bonding and attachment difficult. But we must realize that we are here in this moment, now, and we must make that count…

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To The Parent Who Is Struggling…I See You!

This post is written by an adoptive dad who writes with such honesty and hope, we know you will appreciate this as much as we do!

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and isolated on the parenting journey. Especially when your children are struggling and you feel you don’t know how to help. But there is hope in the midst of the struggle…

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Is It Ever Okay To Leave The Toxic Relationship Of Family Or Friends?

This guest post is written by an adoptive mom and colleague of ours. She tackles a subject we know many foster and adoptive parents face.

When we begin the foster or adoptive journey, we need support. Often, we find it through family and close friendships. But sometimes, we don’t. What do you do when you realize it’s time to walk away from those relationships?

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There’s A Reason Your Child Always Fights You For Control

This post is from an adoptive parent whose hope is that other parents will learn and grow from his experiences.

As parents of children with a trauma history, we often find ourselves engaged in futile battles with them for control. But when we understand the why behind their fight, the way we parent them can change.

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How To Find Therapy For The Caregiver

This post is written by adoptive mom, Kristin.

The children we care for may need to spend time every week seeing a therapist to help them process their trauma history. This is a good thing. However, it begs the question…what about you? The caregiver? What if you need therapy to? How do you find this?

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The Ultimate Need Of Every Adoptive Family

This post is anonymously shared by an adoptive mom, to encourage other caregivers. We expect you will appreciate her vulnerability and honesty as much as we do

We are often asked what we need, or how someone can help our family. While these questions are always appreciated, the answer may surprise you.

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What to do When Your Child Pushes You Away

This post is written by adoptive mom, Kristin who believes that when we understand our children better, we stop trying to change them and instead change ourselves.

When our child’s behavior becomes off-putting, or prickly, it’s often hard to remember that it’s an indication of something bigger going on with them. Remembering this, however, can change how we approach our children…

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When You Still Have to Parent Adult Children

This is a guest post from Melissa Corkum. Melissa is a parent and wellness coach helping parents move from chaos to calm and confidence. She is an adult adoptee and married to Patrick. They live in Maryland and are parents to 6 kids by birth and adoption and soon-to-be grandparents. She writes at thecorkboardonline.com and is the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a resource site and podcast for adoptive and foster families.

It’s a reality that many of us on the adoption journey will face. We will be actively involved in hands on parenting with our adult children in ways most parents will not. How do you face this with hope and a plan?

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This Is For Every Child With A Special Need

This post was written by Mike, an adoptive dad who bursts with pride for his children every day.

Like many of you, we watched Kodi Lee’s performance on America’s Got Talent last week through tears and celebration. But his performance meant something beyond deep and meaningful for every child with a special need, and their parents.

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Why I Can No Longer Bubble Wrap My Child

This post is written by Mike, an adoptive Dad about a lesson learned from our good friend who is an attachment therapist and also an adoptive mom.

As our children grow into adulthood, we become increasingly helpless to stop them from making choices that could lead to serious consequences. What do you do when you realize you can no longer stop them from doing what they want?

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Why You Should Never Bad Mouth Your Child’s First Family

This post is written by Kristin, Kristin is an adoptive mom, an adoptive big sister, an adoptive aunt, and the granddaughter of two adoptees.

It can be a difficult thing to not do, at times, because your child’s storyline may not be very positive. But it’s critical that we never bad mouth our child’s first family. Here’s why…

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Will The World Ever Understand My Child’s Disorder?

From frustrating IEP meetings, to disagreeable doctors, inappropriate church goers, and nosey neighbors. The world is full of people who think we’re making our child’s disorder up, or just misunderstand our reality altogether. The question is, will they ever understand?

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When Holidays Aren’t All They’re Cracked Up To Be

When most families around the world celebrate a Holiday like Easter Sunday with jubilation, families like ours, with kids who have experienced trauma, brace for a storm. From the candy, overstimulation from church and family gatherings, to the mad rush of an easter egg hunt, it often proves to be disastrous. How can caregivers find hope when this is the case?

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

Sarah Gray

Sarah Gray is the executive assistant to Mike and Kristin Berry. And she is the best in the land. In addition to providing a warm and friendly response to the many emails our company receives on a weekly basis, she also manages Mike and Kristin’s speaking and meeting schedules, and makes sure that team events go off without a hitch.

Nicole Goerges

Nicole Goerges is a Content Contributor & Special Consultant for The Honestly Adoption Company. She works with Mike and Kristin as a recurring co-host for the Honestly Adoption Podcast, and co-host of Kitchen Table Talks, exclusive video content for Oasis Community, along with Kristin. She is a fellow adoptive mom, and former foster parent.

Matt McCarrick

Matt McCarrick is the Content Production Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. If you’ve loved listening to our podcast, or enjoyed any of the videos trainings we’ve published, you have Matt to thank. He oversees all of our content production, from video edits, to making sure the tags are correct on YouTube, to uploading new videos to Oasis, to hitting publish on a podcast episode, he’s a content wonder!

Karen Anderson

Karen Anderson is the Community Engagement Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends the bulk of her time interacting with, and helping, people through our various social media channels, as well as providing support for Oasis Community members through chat support or Zoom calls. In the same spirit as Beaver, Karen is also passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and supported. Karen is also an FASD trainer and travels often, equipping and encouraging parents.

Beaver Trumble

Beaver Trumble is the Customer Care Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. Chances are, if you have been in need of technical support, or forgotten your password to one of our courses, you have interacted with Beaver. He is an absolute pro at customer care. In fact, he single-handedly revolutionized our customer care department last year. Beaver is passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and encouraged.

Kristin Berry

Kristin Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Content Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends most of her time researching and connecting with guests for our podcast, as well as direction, designing and publishing a lot of the content for our social media channels, blog and podcast. She loves to connect with fellow parents around the world, and share the message of hope with them.

Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.